It is a fact of life that you cannot choose your adoptive parents. In some cases, these adoptions just don’t work out. It may be due to unsuitable adoptive parents and/or unforeseen situations occurring. Whatever it is, it is a tragedy for both child and parents; and something nobody wants to see happen. In many more cases, however, adoption is a saviour for the kids concerned and a life fulfilling relationship for the adoptive parents. It is a lucky dip for the adopted children in terms of where their new life with their adoptive parents will take them.
Adoption Not Such a Gamble for Some
In my own particular situation, I was adopted by a husband and wife who were ensconced into the bookmaking and horseracing industry. Now, gambling has a bad reputation amongst many people and I cannot argue with their position on this. I can only put forward my own experience with my adoptive parents. They were incredibly generous and loving toward me throughout their lives; and I continue to thank the day when they adopted me.
In many ways, I think, we do not completely choose our own destinies. I know that my adoptive father was the son of a bookmaker and the grandson of a bookmaker. Horses and gambling were the backbone of this family and they made their way through life under the auspices of these industries. I am very proud of my father and can confidently say that most people who came into contact with him were better for the experience. He and mom, made the world a richer place through the love and generosity that they showed. I do not think that dad ever took advantage of those that bet with him and that they knew the score as well has he did when it came to the betting business.
Today, corporate bookmakers are offering the best free bookmakers bets, apparently, but it is a different world to what my parents knew. Gambling seems to be endorsed by governments around the globe and everywhere we look in sport, gambling is there. When I was growing up, there were strict parameters between the worlds of horse racing/gambling and the rest of the world. Now, gambling is across the board for all sports and promoted widely throughout the community. I am very grateful for the upbringing given to me by my adoptive parents, but I do not endorse this new world of corporate gambling.
For so many years, it is common all around the world to adopt children from China and the Southeast Asia. Many orphaned children, either the product of war or poverty, ended up with Australian families who took them in as their own. We talked to two members of the Asian Cultural Management Team who were raised by adoptive families in Sydney. Meet Florigine and Hope!
Florigine is of Filipino origin. She was adopted by an Australian couple and was brought to the country when she was a few months old. Florigine grew up without any siblings, either natural or adoptive. According to her, she never felt that she was adopted. Florigine’s closest relatives accepted her and treated her like they were connected by blood.
Growing up, Florigine reached a point where she rebelled not because of her adoption issues, but because she was behaving like any other teens her age. Despite her ancestry, she recognizes herself as an Australian — in culture and identity. When she looks in the mirror, she sees Florigine and not a girl who looks different in colour, appearance and culture.
Thank Heavens, Florigine never experienced being bullied because of her race and colour. However, her family gets irate with racist comments even if Florigine is not affected by it. At some point, she yearned at knowing who her biological parents were. Florigine said that she’ll get there when the right time comes.
“Ching chang, ching chang chung.” These are the words that Hope frequently hear growing up. She came from Vietnam and was adopted due to the Vietnam War. Despite being raised by a loving and happy Australian family in Sydney, she grew up longing for something she couldn’t comprehend.
Racism during her time was pretty common. Hope was always teased for being different. There were also kids who poke fun at her for being adopted. One time, she questioned her parents’ reasons for adopting her. She kind of hated her early years in life, especially her biological parents for disowning her. As Hope gets older, she developed a fear of being abandoned. This seriously messed up her intimate relationships.
There’s one thing about being Vietnamese that she couldn’t forget. One time, a man asked her to translate the Chinese passage from the book he was reading. She laughed at the man and told him that his guess was good as hers. The problem with most people is that they distinguish all Asians with small eyes as Chinese. Hope tried to convince them that she’s Vietnamese, but people dismiss her and said that it doesn’t matter; that they’re all the same.
Adoption gives parents a new opportunity to have a fresh start in their married life. Many couples often find it to be one of the missing key pieces that makes their relationship complete. For children, being adopted opens a window to a new life and opportunity. Here are ten ways that being adopted is cool.
There is also mystery revolving around your existence. Everything from your name birthday, genetic origin is made up. Parents can create the details for your origin story which is very cool.
- People are drawn to you
Due to your mysterious origins, people feel that they want to get to know you better. This is also good if you want to pique one’s attention and have them start guessing.
- No need to claim relatives
If you have brothers and sisters in your family, you can outright dismiss them as relatives especially if they’ve done something annoying and embarrassing. You don’t want them tarnishing the good reputation that you’ve been building.
- Embrace Different Culture
You are able to embrace different cultures regardless of where your parents have originated from. This means that race is not an issue to you and you can get along with just about anyone and this greatly helps in making friends.
- Parents Love You for Who You Are
Adopted children are loved by their parents and support their decisions. This helps give you the freedom to choose the career of your liking. As long as it is reasonable, you will sure to gain the backings of your parents in a short amount of time which leads to another cool feature…
- You Tend to Get Spoiled
Couples who chose to adopt children tend to spoil them too much for their own good. This is indeed quite true especially for first time adopters as they are fairly new and inexperienced in dealing with their first child. However, don’t take all of this to your advantage and parents need to set some limits. With that being said, you often get away with most of your blunders. Use social media with caution.
- Only Child Privileges
As mentioned earlier, couples that consider adoption usually don’t have a child to begin with. As a result, you will most likely be the only child and will be able to enjoy a lot of privileges for quite some time until they decide to add another child but has little chance of happening.
- Secured Future
Again couples who decide to adopt children usually have stable jobs and income. This means that your future is set in stone as you will be supported until your graduate. This however, does not exclude you from household chores.
- Relatives Don’t Annoy You Too Much During Reunions
Reunions for some are troublesome and annoying. This is where relatives talk about their history and what has happened to them over the years which can drag on for a very long time. However, for relatives don’t ask you questions that often and they often tend to talk with your parents instead which saves you from the hassle.
- Adopted kids feel higher respect to other adopted children
You feel like you have an invisible link with other children which create a sense of camaraderie. However, you guys don’t treat it as a disability as each and every one of you understands what the other person is going through.
Why Donald Trump & President Obama’s Freud Over Birth Certificates Should Be Encouraged for Adoption
There are several reasons why people who care about adoptees and their civil rights should be whole heartingly subscribing to supporting the Birther Movement in the USA. I know it’s hard to get away from how ridiculous the Birther Theories regarding the validity of Barack Obama’s birth certificate might seem. And it’s tough to align oneself with, well…. what I do find…. some downright scary folks; but you don’t have to actually watch Fox News to support the Birther Movement. So it’s doable, and honestly, the “Birther Bills” they are trying to pass might hold some hope for the millions of American Adoptees denied the very act that the President was pressured into; producing the legal document of their true identities.
If only we had Donald Trump grandstanding for Adoptee Rights!
Birthers Got the News Media to Say OBC
First off, this whole Birther thing has, at least, made the general public become aware of such as thing as an Original Birth Certificate. When was the last time you actually heard the news media say those words and with such a repeat occurrences? At least, now, when adoptee rights supporters talk about Original Birth Certificates, we won’t get blank eyed looks.
Birthers Proved That the White House is Clueless about Birth Certificates and Adoption
This is just too delicious NOT to call attention to. On the White house dot Gov page about the release of Obama’s OBC, this statement was, in part, released:
The state sent the campaign the President’s birth certificate, the same legal documentation provided to all Hawaiians as proof of birth in state, and the campaign immediately posted it on the internet…. When any citizen born in Hawaii requests their birth certificate, they receive exactly what the President received. In fact, the document posted on the campaign website is what Hawaiians use to get a driver’s license from the state and the document recognized by the Federal Government and the courts for all legal purposes.
Let’s repeat: “same legal documentation provided to all Hawaiians as proof of birth in state” and say it with me….
Unless they have been ADOPTED..then they can get the ABC, the Amended Birth Certificate; never will they see their OBC again under the current and archaic legislation.
Birther Bills & Adoptee Candidate = Open Records
The Birthers, for whatever their real reasoning for this deep concern, don’t ever want to have to worry about this conspiracy ever again, so there are a number of “Birther Bills” that have been introduced. Birther bills were debated in more than a dozen states to force future presidential candidates to prove their citizenship. In Arizona’s bill, passed by the state legislators only to be vetoed by the Governor, initially insisted that only a long-form birth certificate would suffice for candidates . Oklahoma had a bill that would require all candidates, from town council hopeful on up, to prove that they meet the legal requirements for office. The bill does not specify what documents would need to be filed. Birther Bills have been introduced on a federal level as well. In Congress, a bill was introduced in the last session by Rep. Bill Posey, R-Fla., that would have required presidential candidates starting in 2012 to produce their birth certificate and was knocked down when Dems had control. Some Republicans still have hope to reintroduce again.
If the Birthers get a bill passed, then, all we have to do is get an otherwise qualified, yet adopted candidate to run for office. At that point, the government would have tied itself up into a huge knot of conflicting laws. One law would demand that the candidate to produce his or her original birth certificate, while the other law would refuse to unseal it .
I would love to see Rachael Maddow get all snarky about the insanity of THAT!
Aside from the additional media attention a situation like that would demand, perhaps the blatant display of illogical values surround in the Adoptee Rights Movement could convince folks to keep the Birther Bills and open adoption birth records. After all we have every bit of logic and truth on the side of reason.
It Doesn’t Matter WHY the Birthers Do it; It’s the Outcome
While it has be said that Birther’s don’t really care about the truth, and are only either just another branch of the crazed conspiracy theory train, based in racism, or just the right wing trying desperately to undermine the President on a political level; it doesn’t really matter.
What matters is how far these loons are willing to go with this. I mean, let’s face it. The Adoptee Rights movement can use the deep pockets of some right Wing zealots. Lord knows activism is a low paying position. Let them pay to lobby and push a bill that will ultimately create a situation where the US Government has to release all the millions of original birth certificates that belong to adopted citizens.
One Thing Known for Sure About President Obama’s birth?
The President of the United States was NOT adopted. If he had been, then no matter how loud Donald Trump and the Birthers could have yelled; he would never been able to produce his birth certificate. After all, Hawaii is a state with sealed records.