My Foster Daughter Became An Electrician: It Was in Her DNA

Having been a newspaper reader for five decades, the declining standard of news in print has one upside: the ever-diminishing disappointment of not accepting a cadetship more than thirty years ago. Today’s gripe was triggered by a cruciverbalist who seems to think that ‘tidbit’ is actually ‘titbit’. At best this is yet another Americanism slipping greasily into our battered lexicon; at worst, sloppy attention to detail and auditory incompetence. 

Call me a pedant – it’s a badge I wear with honour. While I’m at it, printing inane tweets does not an article make; particularly when they have already been lazily quoted in the body of the story. Ultimately they are badly structured, filled with spelling mistakes, and have the observation and expression of an adolescent.

I imagine a photographer setting up a shot of work boot shod blokes pouting and twerking in order to entitle the study male electricians in touch with their feminine side. I know the end of quality journalism is nigh. Has been for a while. It’s been wrestling for recognition, when it shouldn’t have to at all, like female tradies still struggling for respect

When popular idiocy demanded the death of the broadsheet because it’s apparently too difficult to manage, devolution must have begun. Opposable thumbs seem to not do their job anymore. I await them becoming a useless appendage. Maybe they’ll eventually be removed because we won’t quite know their function. Like an appendix. And I am very aware that newspaper format will soon be just more detritus of the purely digital. It too will join the list of the extinct. Just because it’s accepted, doesn’t mean it’s right. The virtual world indiscriminately treats tradition as lice-infested carrier pigeons impeding delivery drones. It doesn’t even make me angry anymore. Too much hope required for that. 


Fostering Joy

Parenting is, perhaps, one of the most fulfilling roles on the planet. It is, equally, one of the most challenging at times. In the main, parenting is predicated on the blood is thicker than water principle. For many, parenting is more natural evolution than conscious choice, by which I mean we are geared to reproduce. We are designed to procreate and bring forth the next generation, It is in our genes and our DNA. For some, however, the parenting trip becomes dysfunctional nightmare, especially for their children. Whether it be due to some emotional damage within the parents, drink and drug addiction exacerbating the problems, whatever it is, broken homes and homelessness, often, results for the kids at the centre of the dark mess.

Foster Parents: Solution or More Harm?

Social workers want to get children out of dysfunctional families and get them into something more nurturing and secure. They want to remove the kids from danger, but not have them ending up inside state run institutions like orphanages. Foster homes are one solution to that situation. Why do foster parents take in children from broken homes? Some cynical folk say that some do it for the money from the government. There have been cases where foster parents were abusing kids as much as the birth parents. In many other cases, foster parents have been fostering joy in the hearts of their foster kids.

New Standards of Ethical Parenting

Generational change is seeing new standards of ethical parenting being raised across our communities. Emotional cruelties are being recognised and phased out in the way we care for our children. What may have been alright in 1970 is, definitely, not OK in 2018. Religions like Christianity and the agents within those organisations are coming under much greater public scrutiny at all levels. Schools and teachers are, likewise, feeling the blowtorch of public expectation and examination.

Lest We Forget

Sydney’s best gourmet food suppliers fed some of the members of the recent Royal Commission into Institutionalised Responses to Childhood Sexual Abuse. Listening to the harrowing stories, however, left many involved with less than a healthy appetite. The damning evidence and subsequent charges, the recognition and the promised compensation, must all be followed through stringently and not left to dissipate from lack of community attention.  We love the shock horror in the media, but we, all of us, must be vigilant in not letting this fade away. Lest we forget.


Turning the Family Kitchen Into a Bonding Space

In homes around the globe, is there any place warmer than around the kitchen table with your family? This is the engine room where nurturing is bubbling on the stove and loved ones cook up something special for each other. We all know the titles, “Kitchen Table Wisdom”, Chicken Soup For The Soul” and a myriad of similarly named tomes referring to the same magically inspired domestic rites. The kitchen is the place for real magic to happen in the home. Love is on the menu, when mum or dad are cooking up a storm for their brood.

Turning the Family Kitchen Into a Bonding Space

Is your kitchen, at home, a sanctuary from the hustle and bustle of life? If not, what can you do about it? First thing is to make sure that you are inhabiting the space with your own positive energy. As a parent or guardian in a domestic situation, you need to mark your turf and the kitchen is the best place to do it. Even, if you are not a great cook, you can still make the family kitchen a place of real warmth and love. Reheat with gusto, put your love into serving other people’s cooking, and make sure that your family associate good food with your presence.

Eating is an intimate activity, a ritual, that all families can share in. There is a reason why we traditionally celebrate important dates with a shared meal, like Christmas and Easter. They may be religious festivals, which might be losing some of their shine in the modern era, but that import remains true for birthdays and anniversaries. We need to eat to survive, so turning a necessity into a party is a powerful move. Recipes are good medicine for all occasions.

Turning the family kitchen into a bonding space is a sure-fire recipe for healthy and happy families. The kitchen is less formal than the dining room, but is also free of entertainment devices, hopefully. Leave the screens out of the kitchen is my advice, I know that they are creeping in via some fridges and people using them to access online recipe pages, but keep a strict control over them. The kitchen table or stools and kitchen benches are important casual communal spots for family conversation, ideas and sharing. Make sure that your kitchen is designed to be friendly to a multitude of users; it will repay you in love and kisses. Before improving your kitchen apperance you might wanna check out this kitchen renovation gallery for more tips and ideas to match your home’s decor.

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Caring for Foster Kids and Adoptees: Healthcare for the Disadvantaged

In the United States, children who need out-of-home placement are put in the foster care system so that they will be protected and sheltered. However, some children spend long periods of time in orphanages and foster homes, despite the fact that they should be lined up to decent adoptive homes. Among the few reasons why children are subjected to foster care are extreme destitution, abuse and homelessness. Therefore, it does not come as a revelation that orphans and children under the foster care system are in poor health.

Proper health care is a fundamental need for all children. Thanks to health care laws, children and the youth under the foster care system now have access to affordable health care.

Health Care Coverage

In the United States, orphans and those in foster care are entitled to Medicaid. It is a program financed by the Federal and State governments that aims to provide health care treatments and services to citizens who satisfy certain guidelines.

Apart from Medicaid, they are also qualified for the Children’s Health Insurance Program (CHIP) and to some private and marketplace health care insurance. Among the health services that they are eligible for are preventive, screening, diagnostic and treatment services imperative in making sure that they are in their best physical and behavioral health. In Australia, for instance, children in foster homes in Sydney can receive treatment from chiropractor Sydney.

Addressing Psychosocial and Other Needs

Children in orphanages and foster homes each have distinctive health needs. For one, they have pyschosocial needs that must be dealt with; in addition to case planning and legal guardianship requirements.

Moreover, since most kids that are put in the foster care system are mistreated and abandoned, they are in great need of care and affection. Furthermore, their delays in growth and development, late immunizations, asthma and quite a few disregarded health problems present health challenges.

Recent data suggest that at least 80 percent of kids in foster care have mental health problems. These are caused by trauma, experiences in broken families, and lack of access to mental health services, among other things. U.S. laws are enacted to address the mental well-being of children and youth in foster care.


Adoption Not Such a Gamble for Some

It is a fact of life that you cannot choose your adoptive parents. In some cases, these adoptions just don’t work out. It may be due to unsuitable adoptive parents and/or unforeseen situations occurring. Whatever it is, it is a tragedy for both child and parents; and something nobody wants to see happen. In many more cases, however, adoption is a saviour for the kids concerned and a life fulfilling relationship for the adoptive parents. It is a lucky dip for the adopted children in terms of where their new life with their adoptive parents will take them.

Adoption Not Such a Gamble for Some

In my own particular situation, I was adopted by a husband and wife who were ensconced into the bookmaking and horseracing industry. Now, gambling has a bad reputation amongst many people and I cannot argue with their position on this. I can only put forward my own experience with my adoptive parents. They were incredibly generous and loving toward me throughout their lives; and I continue to thank the day when they adopted me.

In many ways, I think, we do not completely choose our own destinies. I know that my adoptive father was the son of a bookmaker and the grandson of a bookmaker. Horses and gambling were the backbone of this family and they made their way through life under the auspices of these industries. I am very proud of my father and can confidently say that most people who came into contact with him were better for the experience. He and mom, made the world a richer place through the love and generosity that they showed. I do not think that dad ever took advantage of those that bet with him and that they knew the score as well has he did when it came to the betting business.

Today, corporate bookmakers are offering the best free bookmakers bets, apparently, but it is a different world to what my parents knew. Gambling seems to be endorsed by governments around the globe and everywhere we look in sport, gambling is there. When I was growing up, there were strict parameters between the worlds of horse racing/gambling and the rest of the world. Now, gambling is across the board for all sports and promoted widely throughout the community. I am very grateful for the upbringing given to me by my adoptive parents, but I do not endorse this new world of corporate gambling.


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Foreign Adoption and Life in Sydney

For so many years, it is common all around the world to adopt children from China and the Southeast Asia. Many orphaned children, either the product of war or poverty, ended up with Australian families who took them in as their own. We talked to two members of the Asian Cultural Management Team who were raised by adoptive families in Sydney. Meet Florigine and Hope!


Florigine is of Filipino origin. She was adopted by an Australian couple and was brought to the country when she was a few months old. Florigine grew up without any siblings, either natural or adoptive. According to her, she never felt that she was adopted. Florigine’s closest relatives accepted her and treated her like they were connected by blood.

Growing up, Florigine reached a point where she rebelled not because of her adoption issues, but because she was behaving like any other teens her age. Despite her ancestry, she recognizes herself as an Australian — in culture and identity. When she looks in the mirror, she sees Florigine and not a girl who looks different in colour, appearance and culture.

Thank Heavens, Florigine never experienced being bullied because of her race and colour. However, her family gets irate with racist comments even if Florigine is not affected by it. At some point, she yearned at knowing who her biological parents were. Florigine said that she’ll get there when the right time comes.


“Ching chang, ching chang chung.” These are the words that Hope frequently hear growing up. She came from Vietnam and was adopted due to the Vietnam War. Despite being raised by a loving and happy Australian family in Sydney, she grew up longing for something she couldn’t comprehend.

Racism during her time was pretty common. Hope was always teased for being different. There were also kids who poke fun at her for being adopted. One time, she questioned her parents’ reasons for adopting her. She kind of hated her early years in life, especially her biological parents for disowning her. As Hope gets older, she developed a fear of being abandoned. This seriously messed up her intimate relationships.

There’s one thing about being Vietnamese that she couldn’t forget. One time, a man asked her to translate the Chinese passage from the book he was reading. She laughed at the man and told him that his guess was good as hers. The problem with most people is that they distinguish all Asians with small eyes as Chinese. Hope tried to convince them that she’s Vietnamese, but people dismiss her and said that it doesn’t matter; that they’re all the same.

Growing up as an adopted Asian in Australia has its ups and downs. Fortunately, Australian families give the love these children truly deserve. Read more about Asian culture in Sydney at ACM Group.

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Ten Ways That Being Adopted Is Cool

Adoption gives parents a new opportunity to have a fresh start in their married life. Many couples often find it to be one of the missing key pieces that makes their relationship complete. For children, being adopted opens a window to a new life and opportunity. Here are ten ways that being adopted is cool.

  1. Mystery

There is also mystery revolving around your existence. Everything from your name birthday, genetic origin is made up. Parents can create the details for your origin story which is very cool.

  1. People are drawn to you

Due to your mysterious origins, people feel that they want to get to know you better. This is also good if you want to pique one’s attention and have them start guessing.

  1. No need to claim relatives

If you have brothers and sisters in your family, you can outright dismiss them as relatives especially if they’ve done something annoying and embarrassing. You don’t want them tarnishing the good reputation that you’ve been building.

  1. Embrace Different Culture

You are able to embrace different cultures regardless of where your parents have originated from. This means that race is not an issue to you and you can get along with just about anyone and this greatly helps in making friends.

  1. Parents Love You for Who You Are

Adopted children are loved by their parents and support their decisions. This helps give you the freedom to choose the career of your liking.  As long as it is reasonable, you will sure to gain the backings of your parents in a short amount of time which leads to another cool feature…

  1. You Tend to Get Spoiled

Couples who chose to adopt children tend to spoil them too much for their own good. This is indeed quite true especially for first time adopters as they are fairly new and inexperienced in dealing with their first child. However, don’t take all of this to your advantage and parents need to set some limits. With that being said, you often get away with most of your blunders. Use social media with caution.

  1. Only Child Privileges

As mentioned earlier, couples that consider adoption usually don’t have a child to begin with. As a result, you will most likely be the only child and will be able to enjoy a lot of privileges for quite some time until they decide to add another child but has little chance of happening.

  1. Secured Future

Again couples who decide to adopt children usually have stable jobs and income. This means that your future is set in stone as you will be supported until your graduate. This however, does not exclude you from household chores.

  1. Relatives Don’t Annoy You Too Much During Reunions

Reunions for some are troublesome and annoying. This is where relatives talk about their history and what has happened to them over the years which can drag on for a very long time. However, for relatives don’t ask you questions that often and they often tend to talk with your parents instead which saves you from the hassle.

  1. Adopted kids feel higher respect to other adopted children

You feel like you have an invisible link with other children which create a sense of camaraderie. However, you guys don’t treat it as a disability as each and every one of you understands what the other person is going through.


Are Crazy “Birther” Conspiracy Theorist Adoptions Only Hope?

Why Donald Trump & President Obama’s Freud Over Birth Certificates Should Be Encouraged for Adoption


There are several reasons why people who care about adoptees and their civil rights should be whole heartingly subscribing to supporting the Birther Movement in the USA. I know it’s hard to get away from how ridiculous the Birther Theories regarding the validity of Barack Obama’s birth certificate might seem. And it’s tough to align oneself with, well…. what I do find…. some downright scary folks; but you don’t have to actually watch Fox News to support the Birther Movement. So it’s doable, and honestly, the “Birther Bills” they are trying to pass might hold some hope for the millions of American Adoptees denied the very act that the President was pressured into; producing the legal document of their true identities.

If only we had Donald Trump grandstanding for Adoptee Rights!

Birthers Got the News Media to Say OBC

First off, this whole Birther thing has, at least, made the general public become aware of such as thing as an Original Birth Certificate. When was the last time you actually heard the news media say those words and with such a repeat occurrences? At least, now, when adoptee rights supporters talk about Original Birth Certificates, we won’t get blank eyed looks.
Birthers Proved That the White House is Clueless about Birth Certificates and Adoption

This is just too delicious NOT to call attention to. On the White house dot Gov page about the release of Obama’s OBC, this statement was, in part, released:

The state sent the campaign the President’s birth certificate, the same legal documentation provided to all Hawaiians as proof of birth in state, and the campaign immediately posted it on the internet…. When any citizen born in Hawaii requests their birth certificate, they receive exactly what the President received. In fact, the document posted on the campaign website is what Hawaiians use to get a driver’s license from the state and the document recognized by the Federal Government and the courts for all legal purposes.

Let’s repeat: “same legal documentation provided to all Hawaiians as proof of birth in state” and say it with me….

Unless they have been ADOPTED..then they can get the ABC, the Amended Birth Certificate; never will they see their OBC again under the current and archaic legislation.
Birther Bills & Adoptee Candidate = Open Records

The Birthers, for whatever their real reasoning for this deep concern, don’t ever want to have to worry about this conspiracy ever again, so there are a number of “Birther Bills” that have been introduced. Birther bills were debated in more than a dozen states to force future presidential candidates to prove their citizenship. In Arizona’s bill, passed by the state legislators only to be vetoed by the Governor, initially insisted that only a long-form birth certificate would suffice for candidates . Oklahoma had a bill that would require all candidates, from town council hopeful on up, to prove that they meet the legal requirements for office. The bill does not specify what documents would need to be filed. Birther Bills have been introduced on a federal level as well. In Congress, a bill was introduced in the last session by Rep. Bill Posey, R-Fla., that would have required presidential candidates starting in 2012 to produce their birth certificate and was knocked down when Dems had control. Some Republicans still have hope to reintroduce again.

If the Birthers get a bill passed, then, all we have to do is get an otherwise qualified, yet adopted candidate to run for office. At that point, the government would have tied itself up into a huge knot of conflicting laws. One law would demand that the candidate to produce his or her original birth certificate, while the other law would refuse to unseal it .

I would love to see Rachael Maddow get all snarky about the insanity of THAT!

Aside from the additional media attention a situation like that would demand, perhaps the blatant display of illogical values surround in the Adoptee Rights Movement could convince folks to keep the Birther Bills and open adoption birth records. After all we have every bit of logic and truth on the side of reason.
It Doesn’t Matter WHY the Birthers Do it; It’s the Outcome

While it has be said that Birther’s don’t really care about the truth, and are only either just another branch of the crazed conspiracy theory train, based in racism, or just the right wing trying desperately to undermine the President on a political level; it doesn’t really matter.

What matters is how far these loons are willing to go with this. I mean, let’s face it. The Adoptee Rights movement can use the deep pockets of some right Wing zealots. Lord knows activism is a low paying position. Let them pay to lobby and push a bill that will ultimately create a situation where the US Government has to release all the millions of original birth certificates that belong to adopted citizens.
One Thing Known for Sure About President Obama’s birth?

The President of the United States was NOT adopted. If he had been, then no matter how loud Donald Trump and the Birthers could have yelled; he would never been able to produce his birth certificate. After all, Hawaii is a state with sealed records.