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What No One Told Me About Adoption: Carnival One

Submitted by admin on September 17, 2009 – 7:23 am43 Comments

This is the first Carnival that Grown in My Heart Writer’s have done and we, of course, want to start out with a topic that everyone can do. Everyone, in some way or another, is touched by adoption. Even if you have not adopted, are not adopted, or have not relinquished a child you are touched by someone who has experienced adoption personally.

What did people forget to tell you about adoption? What did they omit or conveniently not tell you before you adopted or relinquished your child?

Tell us your truths.

  • No one told me about post adoption depression and how severe it can get when it is not treated.
  • No one told me that there would be days when I would not like my son even though I love him fiercely. And no one told me that one of the hardest things I would ever have to do is tell him how much I loved him even though I didn’t feel like it.
  • No one told me about the post traumatic stress and it’s effect on the entire family.
  • Likewise, no one told me how to deal with SPD, anxiety, night-terrors, pin worms, etc. And that was just the first week he was home. Learning those ropes on my own was the hardest thing I ever had to do.
  • No one told me how happy I would be when I finally realized my oldest son was attaching.
  • No one told me that after years of the pricklies from my oldest how wonderful it would be to have a little one who loves to cuddle, who looks you straight in the eye, and who molds right into me.
  • No one told me how rewarding it would be to see him develop from a child who lived in an orphanage into a little boy. He is astounding, no matter what diagnoses’ he has.
  • No one told me how long it would take for my immediate family to attach and understand) adoption.
  • No one told me how MUCH I would adore my sons. How much I would love them.
  • No one told me how rewarding it would be to be a mother and how much I would want to teach them about the world, about their culture, and about being a good person.
  • No one told me how much I would love giving to them.
  • No one told me how much I would crave sleep and quiet time.
  • And no one told me how cute little boys look in their pajamas.


Do some of these sound familiar? Write your own post (on your own site) and link up to Grown in My Heart using Mr. Linky. Link up to the exact post so everyone can find it.

It’s our first MONTHLY Adoption Carnival and we think it will be an incredible one.

Our next Carnival? Stay tuned…October 8

What No One Told Me About Adoption: Carnival One

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