I am, quite frankly, sick and tired of the adoption industry pretending to protect me and other birthmothers. Every time I lobby or speak to a legislator about sealed adoptee records, they ALWAYS have the same concern; ” the poor birthmother who doesn’t want to be found” In truth, the average percentage of American Birthmothers who do not desire contact is 0.993471.

and the story that might follow…

Adult Adoptee Consider Themselves Lucky They Don’t Have Access To Original Birth Certificates-They Want The State To Care For Them
AP-Jefferson City MO  by Jimmy Olson
In an unexpected move thousands of …

Back in 2008 when I wrote at A Child Chosen, I created a list that has since become one of my most popular posts.  The Best of the Best: Top 50 Adoption Blogs has continued …

Thousands of Adoptive Parents are NOT Acting in Best Interest of Children; Choosing Drugs over Kids shows recent vote in the U.S.
Parents allowing Marijuana to be more important than adopted children & won’t take 5 minutes to change history and be good parents. The national vote clearly shows that the idea to Legalize the Recreational Use of Marijuana is more Important than Adoptees!

Over six MILLION adopted persons in 44 states are denied access to their original birth certificates.
Neither of my boys have theirs. They have our names on them and that is just not right…
I didn’t birth …

I have to admit I’m a bit pulled out of shape about the latest push for adoptee rights in my state, Missouri.  I just got notification of a new bill, well it’s the same bill …

I need some help from you. Simple steps really, but often even more important because I can tell you that most politicians are sympathetic to the issues of adoptees, but they are even more concerned about unsetting the birthparents, and often they care allot about the adoptive parents feelings, too. If they hear the support from adoptive parents in numbers, they are likely to listen.

All Adoptive parents need to be a voice in this issue just by caring enough to spread the word and speaking out.

In my last post I said we need to talk about adoption, about adoption reform, about our experiences. That got me thinking about how hard it really is. And as always, the below does not apply to everyone, just everyone I seem to meet.

Think about the last time you met another adoptee. Did they tell you that they were adopted, or did someone else bring it up?

We need to talk. We need to find allies outside the adoption community, not just because there is strength in numbers, because many will understand. The more folks understand, the less I have to yell about grizzly bears.