Comments on: Putting out the Fires http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires An Adoption Community Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:45:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: admin http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5578 admin Mon, 05 Oct 2009 19:42:50 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5578 Cricket, I agree. I think many AP's gloss things over...until they get stuck. We got stuck the moment we got home from Russian and were thrust full throttle into real life. We didn't have time to live in a fairy tale. So, we chose to become advocates and I chose to start helping AP's realize that adoption isn't always easy and that their children need connections with their culture and their past. I just hope that GIMH is doing it's justice. And, if we need to change something let us know. We'll see what we can do. Cricket, I agree. I think many AP’s gloss things over…until they get stuck. We got stuck the moment we got home from Russian and were thrust full throttle into real life. We didn’t have time to live in a fairy tale. So, we chose to become advocates and I chose to start helping AP’s realize that adoption isn’t always easy and that their children need connections with their culture and their past.

I just hope that GIMH is doing it’s justice. And, if we need to change something let us know. We’ll see what we can do.

]]> By: Cricket http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5576 Cricket Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:05:43 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5576 I agree with Amy. I am not naive enough to believe that adoption will ever be a "thing of the past"...but I do think that AP's tend to gloss over the feelings that may come up in their adoptee's future. I'm glad this site is here...and to be honest, I wasn't sure about it in the beginning..but it does give me insight into what APs are really saying and thinking. I agree with Amy. I am not naive enough to believe that adoption will ever be a “thing of the past”…but I do think that AP’s tend to gloss over the feelings that may come up in their adoptee’s future.

I’m glad this site is here…and to be honest, I wasn’t sure about it in the beginning..but it does give me insight into what APs are really saying and thinking.

]]> By: O Solo Mama http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5540 O Solo Mama Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:35:27 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5540 Appreciate your message and the frustration. Thanks for articulating it. Appreciate your message and the frustration. Thanks for articulating it.

]]> By: Mara http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5539 Mara Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:50:41 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5539 The "Closed Adoption Era" is NOT over until every single one of us (adoptees) who have been victimized and continue to be victimized from it are dead, our children are dead, our grandchildren are dead, our great-grandchildren are dead. Closed adoption is the "gift" that keeps on giving. The “Closed Adoption Era” is NOT over until every single one of us (adoptees) who have been victimized and continue to be victimized from it are dead, our children are dead, our grandchildren are dead, our great-grandchildren are dead. Closed adoption is the “gift” that keeps on giving.

]]> By: Amyadoptee http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5538 Amyadoptee Fri, 02 Oct 2009 21:38:43 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5538 I don't think that I have ever commented but if Claud and Melanie (both are good friends of mine) are here, then it must be a good place. I don't consider adoptive parents the enemy. My goal is to help educate them on the plight of their children when they become adults. I don’t think that I have ever commented but if Claud and Melanie (both are good friends of mine) are here, then it must be a good place. I don’t consider adoptive parents the enemy. My goal is to help educate them on the plight of their children when they become adults.

]]> By: admin http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5536 admin Fri, 02 Oct 2009 18:06:09 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5536 Oh, we are not closing. NEVER! But, we did have a writer go on hiatus because she was very upset. She wrote about her feelings, like we all do and felt attacked. I just don't want that to happen. The whole purpose is for everyone to feel like they can say anything without hurtful comments. Basically, play nice, right? I don't mind people talking about how they are angry or how it's not fair, or how this or that. But, play nice about it. Don' attack, don't throw flames, don't tell us we don't understand. Because, maybe we do. Oh, we are not closing. NEVER! But, we did have a writer go on hiatus because she was very upset. She wrote about her feelings, like we all do and felt attacked. I just don’t want that to happen. The whole purpose is for everyone to feel like they can say anything without hurtful comments.

Basically, play nice, right? I don’t mind people talking about how they are angry or how it’s not fair, or how this or that. But, play nice about it. Don’ attack, don’t throw flames, don’t tell us we don’t understand. Because, maybe we do.

]]> By: DebiP http://www.growninmyheart.com/putting-out-the-fires#comment-5534 DebiP Fri, 02 Oct 2009 15:24:10 +0000 http://www.growninmyheart.com/?p=6452#comment-5534 I hope that we all can understand the purpose to this site...I love reading here. In fact Claud and Melanie and Michelle are some great woman I have 'known' for some time and LOVE LOVE their insight. I would surly miss this site if it were to close. I hope that we all can understand the purpose to this site…I love reading here. In fact Claud and Melanie and Michelle are some great woman I have ‘known’ for some time and LOVE LOVE their insight. I would surly miss this site if it were to close.

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