The adoption industry wants everyone to believe that adoption is a beautiful experience and that no one gets hurt. That couldn’t be further from the truth.

The adopted child suffers from losing his/her mother (the voice, smell, and touch for 9 months that he/she bonded to.) and then losing his/her foster parents that he/she began to bond to for months before being adopted. The confusion, sadness and sense of abandonment the infant suffers immediately upon separation and continues to grieve over for the rest of his/her life. (Body memories with no words to attach them to because these traumas happen pre-vocabulary.)

The natural mother and father lose their child because they cannot care for it or were convinced that they can’t. (They love their child and are doing what they believe is best.) They sometimes grieve this loss for the rest of their lives.

The foster parents lose a child that they have grown attached to and may have loved.

These are the realities that the multi-billion dollar adoption industry wants all you “good” adoptive parents to dismiss. You are their customers. They do not want you exposing their new customers to this reality. The money has to keep rolling in and they especially don’t want mothers to stop surrendering children (commodities) to them.

Even if children are lucky to be adopted into a loving home with wonderful adoptive parents, they have lost so much in the process. (A lot of adoptees have attachment disorders because of this loss.)

To dismiss adoption as anthing less than a traumatic experience is to invalidate the child’s experience. A child adopted as an infant will remember (body memories) this experience for the rest of his/her life.